It is a tough thing - saying sorry. It requires you to admit you were wrong, out loud. More so, you are left at the mercy of the other person. They can shout at you, throw a tantrum and no idea what else. Worst of all, that person is your wife, and you love her.
Well, you goofed up, and you need to apologize. So, how do you go around apologizing, without having to say sorry, out loud? Well, you do know that women love letters? So, write her a great letter of apology, and mean every word in it.
How to Write an Apology Letter to Your Wife
Yes, I know that you have never done this before. Hence you have been searching for help, right? Ok! So, you need to understand how to go about writing an apology letter. Since it comes in the informal category of letter writing, there is no particular format that you need to follow.
However, just follow these steps or writing tips, and the letter will come to you automatically.
- Describe the offense. Let your wife know what mistake is it that you are apologizing for. Since you make so many, a little bit of explanation is needed, don't you think?
- Let her know that you feel bad about it. This will tell her that you not only admit your mistake but regret it as well. More so, she will realize that you, for once, feel her pain as well.
- In a verbal apology, you may have not gotten the opportunity to explain your motives for the crime (exaggeration, I know!). So, since this is a letter, take the opportunity to explain to her why you did what you did. Make it detailed.
- Tell her why you thought of writing a letter to her. This will help her see that you are making a conscientious effort to make the union work. Trust me, this works wonders at easing her anger.
So, now that you know all that needs to be mentioned, I am sure that there is a level of mental preparedness to write the letter. Nonetheless, to ease you troubles a bit, here is an apology letter sample.
Case: "Henry and Kaitlyn have been married 4 years. They were courting for around 6 years before they decided to tie the knot. Henry is an executive in a bank and Kaitlyn is a designer with a home décor magazine. They both have fairly demanding lives. However, Kaitlyn takes out time to make sure her home is well maintained. She works from home for half the day, to ensure everything runs smoothly. Henry is up for a major promotion and is under a lot of stress at work. Due to this stress and work pressure, they are not getting time to spend with each other, let alone be intimate. As such, Henry has been losing his temper left, right and center these days, making the atmosphere in the house negative and almost hostile. After about 2 months of such behavior, Henry has realized his mistake."
|Kaitlyn my love,
I know you are surprised to see this letter. No, I am not leaving you. Though, I am sure my behavior has been leading you to believe otherwise. I am very sorry, Kaity. I am sorry that I have not been giving you time. I am sorry for dumping all the house pressures on you. I am sorry for taking you for granted. I am sorry for the yelling and the fights. But most importantly, my love, I am sorry, for not showing you how much I love you, lately.
Last night, I heard you cry in the bathroom. My heart broke into million pieces. I promised you the joys and comforts of all the worlds, when I took your hand in marriage. But, I guess, I lost my way a bit. The work pressures and my boss have been driving me insane. I need you through all this. You are my strength, my love. I promise to improve. Though it might take sometime, I hope you will be patient with your hen-hen (*wink*).
Kaity, I really am sorry, and I hope you understand that I feel terrible for putting you through so much pain. I can't stand to see the tears in your eyes, and I feel horrible for causing them. Please forgive me my love. I promise to improve, and soon.
I can't say much more, but I am sure you know what's in my heart. You know my every breath, my every heartbeat. Let's mend this together. Let's make it what was.
Je suis tres, tres desole, mon amour. (tried the french since you find it so romantic).
I'll see you tonight.
Okay, yes this is a bit too romantic. But, trust me, a letter of this sort will work. Her anger will dissipate. You need to know how to write romantic love letters. But make sure you make it relevant to the mistake, don't just copy this one or try to use an apology letter template. She will know that it is not genuine. The fight will get worse, trust me! So, be original, as much as possible, you could try using apology quotes as well.
The best apology is that which comes straight from the heart. So whatever you write in the sorry letter, make sure you mean every word of it. I won't take much of your time now. This is where I sign off! All the best!