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The Meaning and Origin of the Phrase 'Kill Them With Kindness'

Meaning and Origin of the Phrase 'Kill Them With Kindness'
Sometimes revenge can be sweet and outright wicked without letting the enemy know that you plan mischief in your mind while outwardly you maintain a sweet smile that crushes them.
Penlighten Staff
Last Updated: Feb 28, 2018
Friendship
On the Contrary..
'Do not trust wholly in an excessive show of kindness and honesty.' This ancient Chinese proverb warns against sweet deception, too much kindness maybe sinister!
George Bernard Shaw probably faced some real mean people no wonder he said : I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it. Imagine losing your calm over people whom you hate to meet daily and some love to be mean and nasty with you for reasons unknown. We will always come across not-so-nice people every once in a while, that's life. So how do we deal with such people?... simply by killing them with kindness, the trick is to take away their power of inflicting hurt or pain by being extremely kind towards them. Mean people cannot fight back against random, unaccountable kindness.
Meaning
Kill Them With Kindness: means to be overtly kind to someone by using excessive flattery and spoiling them with overindulgence.
Origin
The phrase or expression probably originated from the English proverb The ape kills her young with kindness which was popular during the mid-1500s. This meant that the ape presumptively kills its young by crushing it hard while giving it a hug.
Examples
1. And if she chance to nod I'll rail and brawl,

And with the clamor keep her still awake.

This is a way to kill a wife with kindness.

- William Shakespeare's Taming Of The Shrew: act 4, scene 1
The above lines are taken from Shakespeare's Taming of the Shrew in which Petrucio is planning to tame Kate's nagging nature and turn her into an obedient wife. For him 'killing with kindness' necessitates impoverishing Kate of food and sleep for a point of time, until she submits to being an obedient wife. Petrucio is like the ape smothering Kate with irresistibly belligerent act that he claims to be love.
2. If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink:
For thou shalt heap coals of fire upon his head, and the LORD shall reward thee.

- The Holy Bible: Proverbs: 25:21-22
Bible endlessly instructs to love thy neighbor and be the good Samaritan in doing so one will invite the blessings of the Lord in his life. 'Heap coals of fire upon his head' here means if one continues to do good for those who persecute they will finally feel ashamed of inflicting you with hurt and pain.
3. I've seen a lot of shit I shouldn't have but never forgot it though
I just wanna spread love, they want me to bleed slow
I just wanna keep the peace, and help people
Give some of this money that I'm making to the people
So if you hatin' on me goddamn you evil
I just kill'em with kindness, yeah we leave 'em deceased

- 5AM- Logic
The above lyrics are taken from 'Welcome To Forever' mixtape of rapper Logic, he raps about haters not liking the good work he wants to give to the society but believes that he will be so unrealistically courteous to the haters that they get skeptical and start to wonder what he is up to.

Little acts of benignity can throw your haters off guard, it is something they would least anticipate whilst throwing daggers of hatred and discouragement. If somebody is hateful and nasty, it's a manifestation of the kind of life they have or had. Astonish them - A sweet smile a day will suffice!